As you take a journey to wholeness and discovering your greatness there are many diversions along the way. You get to one milepost and think to yourself, yes, I have made it, only to see there are many more mileposts ahead in the distance. You are going along great for a while, and then hit a bump in the road and start to question, have I really done anything at all, only to dig deep and see that what is in your heart is larger and more powerful than what is in your head. So with this knowledge and belief you keep going, knowing that this is a journey and not a destination. You daily choose to see greatness, to filter life through your heart, to stay true to yourself and all you know, to carry on and live the best life you possibly can armed with the knowledge of who you truly are in your greatness. All this is done with a conscious decision on your own with no input from others, but what happens when people are added to the mix and you discover the decision you made to make the journey has an impact on others, what happens next?
I have recently been involved with a person that my life, my journey hit a chord of hope in them that life can be different. That there is hope, that there is greatness and a life that is amazing is possible. The impact my life had on this person hit me straight to the heart when they wrote to me the following...
"You never knew while going through your challenges that you would save an African American young woman from being shipwrecked. By being your strong resilient self you would give me hope. By being your brave warrior self you would give me someone to look up to. By not allowing yourself to be broken by your challenges and not taking your life, you would save mine."
As I read this again my heart is overwhelmed that my decision to change my life would someday have such a huge impact on another. But in reality, isn't that what greatness is all about? That as we make a journey to discover who we are with the greatness that we were born with that we can in some way touch the life of another. That we can make a heart to heart connection with others and that they too can discover what greatness is all about?
So it is with this resolve that I write that even though I may have a long way still to go on this journey and that each day I am discovering new areas in which I have to grow and learn that I will choose to live a life that makes a difference. That I will face each day fearlessly knowing that I have greatness and it is this greatness that is to be shared with others. I can do this, I have the courage, strength and ability within my heart to live this life. I will choose people to be in my life that will challenge me to keep growing, to keep learning and I will also choose people that believe in me and will come along side me in this journey.
Living a life of hope, of courage with fearlessness is an amazing, challenging way to live. However, when you see that your choice to live this life may also lead another to want it, every tear, every hard place, every challenge is worth it as you help someone else discover how to make the 18 inch journey into their heart.
Sunday, November 3, 2013
Friday, October 11, 2013
The Energy of Greatness - Being Centered
I am discovering this truth, no matter how far you have come, how much you have learned, or where you think you should be, there is always more to learn, more ways to grow. Your greatness is not measured by how far you think you should be. Who you are is not measured by what you feel is a setback, in fact it is not a setback but another opportunity to grow. To look into your heart and hear what it is saying. So stand tall in your greatness and listen to the whispers of your heart.
I have had to read this several times this week to remind myself of the truth. Words I have written and shared in a presentation this past summer, but had forgotten as this has been a week of questioning for me, which all started with a challenge I got from a friend last week.
Let me explain. I have an energy about me. Anybody who knows me, or has met me has probably figured this out. However, the energy I have is BRIGHT NEON and scattered all over the place. As I walked through this journey, my energy became more intense, but not centered and at times can be overwhelming. The times I focus and pull it into cohesion are powerful and draw others in to hear what I have to say about their greatness and how it can change their life. So as I went to my friend and shared with her how I was living with intention she challenged me to focus my energy. To take it from neon to a cool calm blue/green (my analogy) and to draw it in and channel it and then watch what happens as it becomes more powerful, but focused! So I thought about this and accepted the challenge thinking I can do this, easy! But I discovered this week it is actually easier said than done (she kinda warned me about this as well).
Here is what has happened that led me to the excerpt above...I tried to channel my energy from a logical standpoint and did not allow it to flow out from the heart, in the process I started to feed myself all sorts of negative self talk about why I have not already gotten here, why another growth process, shouldn't I be done with this yet?!? So where did I end up...anywhere but in my greatness!
I have stayed here for about a week and not allowed myself to move back to my heart. While it has been painful to stay here, it seemed even harder to fight through it to allow myself to feel these feelings. My friend said the "storm" would hit, she was right. I discovered that when I channel my energy into a cohesive, streamlined, calm state, you have to feel more deeply. When I allow it to be scattered, the feelings somethimes stay at a surface level, thus never reach to the depths of the heart, but when you "draw in" your energy, you feel deeply and completely which can be an intense place. I spent about a week "taming" my energy from a logical standpoint (my head) and it felt easy, but I soon realized I had to go deeper and that is when it started to hurt! But here it is, when you are looking to make a change that is truly from the heart, you cannot do it on a surface level...you will not get to where you are supposed to be! True change starts within the heart and works from the inside out. I cannot truly center my energy by just subduing my physical expression, or logically making a decsion to do so, but rather letting the calm settle into the deepest crevices of my heart and manifesting from there. It is in this place that the true calm, the energy in a positive way will flow with cohesion and cease to be scattered. It is also in this place that what starts out hurting, ends up as a new level of growth that I know will lead to new levels of greatness as well! Funny thing is I spent almost a week in a "funk" as I had one friend tell me and talked a massive amount of neagative self talk in the process and she was not shy in telling me so, but I needed to hear it!
So today, I will "reset" and allow myself to feel deeply, to hear the whispers of my heart and to settle into the familiar place of greatness that I know who I am and the truth. In this place, I will cease to strive for the calm and just listen to my heart instead, it this easy no, it is worth it definitely! While it is rough going at times, I am glad I have accepted this challenge and in the process the growth that will come with it. I know that this piece of the journey is going to lead to bigger, greater things, and in fact already has with the opportunity to share my journery with several others. Sometimes this journey to greatness is a love/hate relationship, but in the end greatness will always prevail if you allow it to.
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Living Intentionally
A couple of weeks ago I made the decision to step in up a notch in my life and to live intentionally. I have been on the "18 inch journey" now since December 2011 and have seen dramatic changes in my life, both in how I approach life and how I look, but I questioned at times, was I applying all I have learned?
As I asked myself this question and pondered it in my heart for several days, some interesting things happened. Quite by chance the opportunity arose to share pieces of my journey with several people. As they listened what intrigued me most was their response that I seemed happy. While this was nice to hear, it was what they followed up with that hit home to my heart...they retracted the "happy statement" and instead said, that it was not happy, but more than that, it was a positive energy, one that could be felt, touched. This is when it hit home in my heart, that my life, my everyday living in my greatness, of filtering life through my heart versus my head was impacting others.
It was in this place of realization that I knew that all the work I have done has finally taken taken root and my life-normal day to day life (nothing dramatic) was an example of what living in your greatness, living intentionally was all about. At this time, I also came to understand that was time to pass the torch in a manner of speaking.
The passing of the torch has come about in that I have been approached by people who have watched me from afar via social media, some for quite some time and others more recently. They have seen what has taken place in me, and have now approached me ready to start their own journey. The same statement is made to me over and over, they "feel" the positive energy, see the changes and want it for their own life. It is in these conversations that I know that living my life intentionally is making the choice I have spoken about many times throughout the course of this blog to filter life through your heart-no matter what happens, and to know your greatness and who you are each day.
I like to say that through all of this that I have no setbacks and that each day is "perfect", but I would be lying! This way of life, of living is not some magic potion I take each morning, some magic words I say, but rather making the conscious decision to know who I am, in recognizing my own greatness, and then to recognize the same in others. Living intentionally is just that-having intention and following through with what you know to be true. That when you stumble and make a decision to react, to reset yourself and start over. Is it failure, no, not in any way, it is just part of the journey. The true joy comes when I get to share this with others who are seeking and to watch as they discover their greatness.
So what is next? This is the question that is now in my heart. I am sure that I am called to share my journey with others in several ways, a book, presenting in person, and maybe even in a one on one setting. I do not know the how or when, but I know that this is what I am supposed to do. The exciting part will be to watch as the next year unfolds and to see where this "18 inch journey" takes me next!
As I asked myself this question and pondered it in my heart for several days, some interesting things happened. Quite by chance the opportunity arose to share pieces of my journey with several people. As they listened what intrigued me most was their response that I seemed happy. While this was nice to hear, it was what they followed up with that hit home to my heart...they retracted the "happy statement" and instead said, that it was not happy, but more than that, it was a positive energy, one that could be felt, touched. This is when it hit home in my heart, that my life, my everyday living in my greatness, of filtering life through my heart versus my head was impacting others.
It was in this place of realization that I knew that all the work I have done has finally taken taken root and my life-normal day to day life (nothing dramatic) was an example of what living in your greatness, living intentionally was all about. At this time, I also came to understand that was time to pass the torch in a manner of speaking.
The passing of the torch has come about in that I have been approached by people who have watched me from afar via social media, some for quite some time and others more recently. They have seen what has taken place in me, and have now approached me ready to start their own journey. The same statement is made to me over and over, they "feel" the positive energy, see the changes and want it for their own life. It is in these conversations that I know that living my life intentionally is making the choice I have spoken about many times throughout the course of this blog to filter life through your heart-no matter what happens, and to know your greatness and who you are each day.
I like to say that through all of this that I have no setbacks and that each day is "perfect", but I would be lying! This way of life, of living is not some magic potion I take each morning, some magic words I say, but rather making the conscious decision to know who I am, in recognizing my own greatness, and then to recognize the same in others. Living intentionally is just that-having intention and following through with what you know to be true. That when you stumble and make a decision to react, to reset yourself and start over. Is it failure, no, not in any way, it is just part of the journey. The true joy comes when I get to share this with others who are seeking and to watch as they discover their greatness.
So what is next? This is the question that is now in my heart. I am sure that I am called to share my journey with others in several ways, a book, presenting in person, and maybe even in a one on one setting. I do not know the how or when, but I know that this is what I am supposed to do. The exciting part will be to watch as the next year unfolds and to see where this "18 inch journey" takes me next!
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Owning and Defining Your Greatness
Greatness. This is really a term that is made up. What does it mean? Who has it? What does it look like? These are questions that are asked of me as I live my life and share my journey with others. These are also questions I ask myself as I look over the tapestry of my life and all the events that have woven together the events of my life and produced who I am today.
I used to think that who I was and what has happened to me throughout my life, the events, the people, the beliefs that were passed down and the ones I created about myself were what defined me. In fact, I lived my life this way, always looking over my shoulder making sure the "demons" that limited my ability to live were not too close. I did everything within my power to make sure that I was "okay", that what I said/did proved that I was worthy of love, friendship, acceptance...and in the end sat in a therapist's office stating I wanted to end it all regardless of the people in my life it would hurt.
It was at this point that the word "greatness" was introduced to me. Such a foreign concept...yet held with it an energy that made me yearn to hear more. It was here in my journey that I discovered that anything outside of the way I saw myself at that moment had to be better and made me determined to find out more.
As I have been on this path for almost two years and have written in this blog many times about the "18 inch" journey to greatness, you may ask why am I bringing this up again...well over the last several weeks something happened that brought me to a new level of self awareness.
I discovered that I do not need others in my life to validate me and tell me about how fearless I am, what positive thing I am doing, what growth is taking place, or what my greatness is that day, week, month. While all these things are okay, if you need them to be "fed" to you and cannot see them in yourself then what do you truly believe?
I have been used to over the past year of being told regularly about all the things mentioned above by a couple of people in my life. I loved it and it felt great, I believed it and used it to fuel myself each day towards growth. Then, life happened and my "providers" got busy and I watched this constant "feeding" drop off, and for a while questioned my worth. So I struggled, until a few days ago when I awoke as if from a dream and allowed myself to look in the mirror of my heart and what did I see but all the things I know to be true about me, determination, fearlessness, courage, greatness and I felt a haze lift and realized that if I rely on others to tell me these things do I really believe them about myself?
As I looked in the mirror I saw the person before my journey started and the one I am now. The difference...understanding greatness and how it defines you and your belief about the possibilities in your life and what you believe yourself to be capable of. What you OWN and not what another owns in their belief about you, but what you own in your belief about yourself.
So, what is greatness, and what does it mean? The definition is really one you write as you discover the person you are and have always been. How all those things that happened to you, the people in your life, the events both negative and positive are what make up your journey. You can filter them through your head or your heart, the result will be vastly different as greatness resides in your heart and truly defines who you are.
What filter are you using? What is your definition of greatness? do you own it or does another? these are now the questions I pose not only to you, but to myself. Let the next phase of the journey begin...
I used to think that who I was and what has happened to me throughout my life, the events, the people, the beliefs that were passed down and the ones I created about myself were what defined me. In fact, I lived my life this way, always looking over my shoulder making sure the "demons" that limited my ability to live were not too close. I did everything within my power to make sure that I was "okay", that what I said/did proved that I was worthy of love, friendship, acceptance...and in the end sat in a therapist's office stating I wanted to end it all regardless of the people in my life it would hurt.
It was at this point that the word "greatness" was introduced to me. Such a foreign concept...yet held with it an energy that made me yearn to hear more. It was here in my journey that I discovered that anything outside of the way I saw myself at that moment had to be better and made me determined to find out more.
As I have been on this path for almost two years and have written in this blog many times about the "18 inch" journey to greatness, you may ask why am I bringing this up again...well over the last several weeks something happened that brought me to a new level of self awareness.
I discovered that I do not need others in my life to validate me and tell me about how fearless I am, what positive thing I am doing, what growth is taking place, or what my greatness is that day, week, month. While all these things are okay, if you need them to be "fed" to you and cannot see them in yourself then what do you truly believe?
I have been used to over the past year of being told regularly about all the things mentioned above by a couple of people in my life. I loved it and it felt great, I believed it and used it to fuel myself each day towards growth. Then, life happened and my "providers" got busy and I watched this constant "feeding" drop off, and for a while questioned my worth. So I struggled, until a few days ago when I awoke as if from a dream and allowed myself to look in the mirror of my heart and what did I see but all the things I know to be true about me, determination, fearlessness, courage, greatness and I felt a haze lift and realized that if I rely on others to tell me these things do I really believe them about myself?
As I looked in the mirror I saw the person before my journey started and the one I am now. The difference...understanding greatness and how it defines you and your belief about the possibilities in your life and what you believe yourself to be capable of. What you OWN and not what another owns in their belief about you, but what you own in your belief about yourself.
So, what is greatness, and what does it mean? The definition is really one you write as you discover the person you are and have always been. How all those things that happened to you, the people in your life, the events both negative and positive are what make up your journey. You can filter them through your head or your heart, the result will be vastly different as greatness resides in your heart and truly defines who you are.
What filter are you using? What is your definition of greatness? do you own it or does another? these are now the questions I pose not only to you, but to myself. Let the next phase of the journey begin...
Sunday, September 1, 2013
When Greatness Leads the Way
Well, it has been about a year since I started this blog and along the way I have learned some great lessons but most of all I have discovered what being fearless and living in your greatness is all about! I think one of the things that surprised me most is when I was in New Mexico for the Nurtured Heart Approach Global Summit and several people walked up to me and said "you're the 18 inches lady!" I was so humbled that there are people who read this as I share my journey and are touched by it. Thank you all for your encouragement and for supporting me in this effort.
So last week I shared about the "art of seeing greatness" in everyday life and to live in greatness in the day in, day out of everyday life. So, taking my own advice, that is what I did this week! Let me preface first by telling you that the prior two weeks I was in and out of my head way to much and had to force myself to be fearless and see greatness in anything. The "elevator" that travels the 18 inches from head to heart got stuck in between floors several times and I at times doubted anything I have learned in the past year. But, before Sunday was over I made the decision to put the "elevator" back into full service and to park it in my heart, thus the blog last week about seeing greatness in everyday life.
As I awoke Monday morning with absolute clarity of who I was and chose to live the day in my heart, the day unfolded in a way that set the course for the rest of the week to follow. I had an amazing day at work, an unexpected meeting with a friend opened up and I made the decision to "breathe" greatness and peace into my household and set family rules. What took place throughout the rest of the week was nothing short of amazing! My home that had been in turmoil, became peaceful and calm and my relationship with my girls thrived all week and still is. At work, a confidence I have not had for a while manifested in full force and I had a fantastic week. The fears/doubts I was having about friendships dissipated as I was reacting out of fear versus listening to my heart.
What I once again realized is that what it comes down to really is this...CHOICE! I know this, and have been told this many times. We all have choices to make and choosing to be fearless and living in your greatness really is a decision you have to make on your own. You can choose to allow negativity to seep into your life/heart and soon it will take over. However, you can also choose to confront it and say NO! To choose to see greatness versus negativity and to breathe this into every situation, this is what I spent the week doing and the freedom and peace that followed was amazing.
Life...it is all about greatness, how you choose to love, to live, to see yourself, and to see others. Listen to the still voice of your heart, it speaks the language of greatness, of fearlessness, of courage. As you choose to live in your heart this still voice will become more and more prominent. Are you listening?
So last week I shared about the "art of seeing greatness" in everyday life and to live in greatness in the day in, day out of everyday life. So, taking my own advice, that is what I did this week! Let me preface first by telling you that the prior two weeks I was in and out of my head way to much and had to force myself to be fearless and see greatness in anything. The "elevator" that travels the 18 inches from head to heart got stuck in between floors several times and I at times doubted anything I have learned in the past year. But, before Sunday was over I made the decision to put the "elevator" back into full service and to park it in my heart, thus the blog last week about seeing greatness in everyday life.
As I awoke Monday morning with absolute clarity of who I was and chose to live the day in my heart, the day unfolded in a way that set the course for the rest of the week to follow. I had an amazing day at work, an unexpected meeting with a friend opened up and I made the decision to "breathe" greatness and peace into my household and set family rules. What took place throughout the rest of the week was nothing short of amazing! My home that had been in turmoil, became peaceful and calm and my relationship with my girls thrived all week and still is. At work, a confidence I have not had for a while manifested in full force and I had a fantastic week. The fears/doubts I was having about friendships dissipated as I was reacting out of fear versus listening to my heart.
What I once again realized is that what it comes down to really is this...CHOICE! I know this, and have been told this many times. We all have choices to make and choosing to be fearless and living in your greatness really is a decision you have to make on your own. You can choose to allow negativity to seep into your life/heart and soon it will take over. However, you can also choose to confront it and say NO! To choose to see greatness versus negativity and to breathe this into every situation, this is what I spent the week doing and the freedom and peace that followed was amazing.
Life...it is all about greatness, how you choose to love, to live, to see yourself, and to see others. Listen to the still voice of your heart, it speaks the language of greatness, of fearlessness, of courage. As you choose to live in your heart this still voice will become more and more prominent. Are you listening?
Sunday, August 25, 2013
The Art of Seeing Greatness
So what does it mean to see greatness daily? It is easy to see greatness when you are doing something big and accomplish it. Or, you set a goal and acheive it. But what about when it is just the daily stuff life is made up of, work, school, family, bills, friendships, chores, etc. How do you find greatness in just everyday ordinary life?
As I have been on an amazing journey the last year and a half or so it seems that all of life was BIG and constant change was taking place be it weight loss, a new discovery about myself as I learned to live from my heart, a period of building new friendships, and I was on all cylinders all the time, so greatness was easier to recognize. But, what about when you come to a place where you are "settled in?" Not to say that growth is not still taking place, as we never should stop learning or growing, but the intensity that was dominant for many months is not there, what do you do then?
This is where I find myself lately and to be honest it has been an adjustment. I know how to live in my heart now and when I find myself not doing so, how to get back. The friendships that were being formed over the last year are solid and secure. The intense period of growth is now not as instense so that "high" of constant learning is not always present. Through this I am learning I think more than ever to trust that everything that has taken place is real and was not just a phase, but is now a lifestyle. I have recognized over the last few weeks that I do not need someone to tell me about how fearless I am, that I have greatness because I know within my heart that I do and I just need to recognize it within myself.
I have a friend that notices things all around her and sees greatness where others may miss it. I have been with her many times and she has pointed out things going on around us and that I may have missed otherwise. This is what I call "the art of seeing greatness." What does this mean? Well to me it means noticing all the "small" things that go on around us each day. It can be a turtle warming in the sun, an act of kindness taking place, a word or phrase that was said in conversation with a friend, a sunrise/sunset while walking outside, a discovery you make about yourself, or an obstacle you encounter and get through, all these things remind us of the greatness within ourselves and others.
It is in the everyday living of life that you can be reminded of who you are, of the greatness within you, of how fearlessly you live your life if you allow yourself to see it. This is the phase I am now in, of learning to trust myself and all that I have leanred. To see, know, and be confident of the greatness in me. To know that I have made the "18 inch" journey from head to heart and do so daily. Is this challenging, sometimes more so than the period of intense growth, but is it worth it, more than I have words to express. It is here that I have truly discovered and am discovering what I am made of, that the greatness that has been in me all my life is an active part of my life and not based on what I am feeling, it just is. It is also here that I have realized that I do not need the reassurance from another to know I have greatness. Not to say that I do not have friends that recognize greatness in me and tell me because I do and it feeds my soul, and I still love being called "fearless warrior" now and then as well. However, it is not the constant "need" that it was as I can recognize greatness and fearlessness within myself.
So it is with this that I challenge you and myself to the "art of seeing greatness" within yourself and around you. Trust your heart and what you know within to be true that you are fealress and greatness prevails with you. It is here that another level of growth will take place.
As I have been on an amazing journey the last year and a half or so it seems that all of life was BIG and constant change was taking place be it weight loss, a new discovery about myself as I learned to live from my heart, a period of building new friendships, and I was on all cylinders all the time, so greatness was easier to recognize. But, what about when you come to a place where you are "settled in?" Not to say that growth is not still taking place, as we never should stop learning or growing, but the intensity that was dominant for many months is not there, what do you do then?
This is where I find myself lately and to be honest it has been an adjustment. I know how to live in my heart now and when I find myself not doing so, how to get back. The friendships that were being formed over the last year are solid and secure. The intense period of growth is now not as instense so that "high" of constant learning is not always present. Through this I am learning I think more than ever to trust that everything that has taken place is real and was not just a phase, but is now a lifestyle. I have recognized over the last few weeks that I do not need someone to tell me about how fearless I am, that I have greatness because I know within my heart that I do and I just need to recognize it within myself.
I have a friend that notices things all around her and sees greatness where others may miss it. I have been with her many times and she has pointed out things going on around us and that I may have missed otherwise. This is what I call "the art of seeing greatness." What does this mean? Well to me it means noticing all the "small" things that go on around us each day. It can be a turtle warming in the sun, an act of kindness taking place, a word or phrase that was said in conversation with a friend, a sunrise/sunset while walking outside, a discovery you make about yourself, or an obstacle you encounter and get through, all these things remind us of the greatness within ourselves and others.
It is in the everyday living of life that you can be reminded of who you are, of the greatness within you, of how fearlessly you live your life if you allow yourself to see it. This is the phase I am now in, of learning to trust myself and all that I have leanred. To see, know, and be confident of the greatness in me. To know that I have made the "18 inch" journey from head to heart and do so daily. Is this challenging, sometimes more so than the period of intense growth, but is it worth it, more than I have words to express. It is here that I have truly discovered and am discovering what I am made of, that the greatness that has been in me all my life is an active part of my life and not based on what I am feeling, it just is. It is also here that I have realized that I do not need the reassurance from another to know I have greatness. Not to say that I do not have friends that recognize greatness in me and tell me because I do and it feeds my soul, and I still love being called "fearless warrior" now and then as well. However, it is not the constant "need" that it was as I can recognize greatness and fearlessness within myself.
So it is with this that I challenge you and myself to the "art of seeing greatness" within yourself and around you. Trust your heart and what you know within to be true that you are fealress and greatness prevails with you. It is here that another level of growth will take place.
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Choosing to Trust
I have discovered something new about myself lately, well maybe not new , but rather clarity about a part of me that I allow worry, misery and doubt to dwell...relationships. I do not like admitting this, as I feel that I should be past this in my life with all that has taken place in the last year or so, but alas I am not. It seems to have hit me with full force in the last month or so as after I presented my journey at a Nurtured Heart Approach Global Summit in June, but especially as I started writing a book on my journey from head to heart!
I recognize it as something that can consume me and if I allow it make me doubt who I am, and also read negatively onto what others are "thinking" if they do not respond to me in a certain way. The truth is, none of it is truth, but rather insecurity. Yes, I could blame my past with my upbringing and lack of relationship, or my failed marriage, or friendships that have come and then gone....but in reality I would just be making excuses to not move from my head to my heart and if I blame these things I am making myself a victim ( I hate this word) of my past versus a fearless warrior of my present and future.
So how do I deal with this? Honestly, it sometimes takes me a day or two to stop listening to the voice in my head saying to me "they are mad at you, they do not want to be your friend, they are "ditching" you, they have had enough, " and to move back into my heart to where I know the truth. This issue is a trust issue, not me not trusting my friends, but me not trusting myself to be worthy of true, long-lasting, healthy friendships. In so doing, I at times will try to sabotage these relationships to protect myself, and to prove to my head I was right all the while my heart is saying, relax, you know better, allow yourself to trust. Mind you, this is not with I just met you relationships, but ones that are developed and solid.
The good news in all of this is that I can hear my heart through this process and while my head is trying to drown it out to pull me into myself and doubt, my heart is saying remember you are fearless, you can trust yourself and others, relax! Ultimately, my heart wins through this process and a calm settles in. What I hate is all the feelings I allow to happen before I get to the calm, but I know how to get to the calm and the process of listening to my heart and shutting up my head is getting shorter each time I walk through this.
This is life my friends...we think we should be at a certain place and then "wham" we get pulled back into a place we do not want to be. However, the real strength, the real growth in this is that you get to choose to walk through it and move forward as a stronger person and more in tune with your heart and your greatness each time! I know from experience this to be true as I have just walked through this once again this week! While, I would like my friends to "coddle" me and reassure me, I know it is better when they do not because as I walk through the doubt and get to the truth by myself I OWN it, not them!
What is it in your life that you need to apply fearlessness and greatness to? It does not make you weak, or a failure, but instead one who is on a journey to greatness is all areas of life! Remember, life is not a destination, but a journey, there will be setbacks along the way, but who will you listen too the voice in your head that leads to worry, misery and doubt, or to your heat that leads you to greatness? The choice is yours, I choose the heart!
I recognize it as something that can consume me and if I allow it make me doubt who I am, and also read negatively onto what others are "thinking" if they do not respond to me in a certain way. The truth is, none of it is truth, but rather insecurity. Yes, I could blame my past with my upbringing and lack of relationship, or my failed marriage, or friendships that have come and then gone....but in reality I would just be making excuses to not move from my head to my heart and if I blame these things I am making myself a victim ( I hate this word) of my past versus a fearless warrior of my present and future.
So how do I deal with this? Honestly, it sometimes takes me a day or two to stop listening to the voice in my head saying to me "they are mad at you, they do not want to be your friend, they are "ditching" you, they have had enough, " and to move back into my heart to where I know the truth. This issue is a trust issue, not me not trusting my friends, but me not trusting myself to be worthy of true, long-lasting, healthy friendships. In so doing, I at times will try to sabotage these relationships to protect myself, and to prove to my head I was right all the while my heart is saying, relax, you know better, allow yourself to trust. Mind you, this is not with I just met you relationships, but ones that are developed and solid.
The good news in all of this is that I can hear my heart through this process and while my head is trying to drown it out to pull me into myself and doubt, my heart is saying remember you are fearless, you can trust yourself and others, relax! Ultimately, my heart wins through this process and a calm settles in. What I hate is all the feelings I allow to happen before I get to the calm, but I know how to get to the calm and the process of listening to my heart and shutting up my head is getting shorter each time I walk through this.
This is life my friends...we think we should be at a certain place and then "wham" we get pulled back into a place we do not want to be. However, the real strength, the real growth in this is that you get to choose to walk through it and move forward as a stronger person and more in tune with your heart and your greatness each time! I know from experience this to be true as I have just walked through this once again this week! While, I would like my friends to "coddle" me and reassure me, I know it is better when they do not because as I walk through the doubt and get to the truth by myself I OWN it, not them!
What is it in your life that you need to apply fearlessness and greatness to? It does not make you weak, or a failure, but instead one who is on a journey to greatness is all areas of life! Remember, life is not a destination, but a journey, there will be setbacks along the way, but who will you listen too the voice in your head that leads to worry, misery and doubt, or to your heat that leads you to greatness? The choice is yours, I choose the heart!
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